As I deal with putting pieces together, the first one I need to put together is myself. So I went back for the first time,t o the University for Homecoming weekend. I even went t the Breakfast and then did the Parade. Dobbins came up and we hugged and kidded each other. I am sure that many eyes were on us so they can draw their own conclusions. It was fun. Parade was fun. Bill Stacy was in the next entry with the Class of l960. I did not go to the luncheon or to fb game. We are in line for the conference champs.
I was reading an article on web "4 ways to Mend a Family Feud".
1-- Forgive and forget. You have to forget the grudge if you want the family to move on. That is the same as the University family. No one wants to play the game of appeasing one over the other. It is not their struggle.
2 -Make the first move -- I did this in the case of Ken Dobbins, Bill Stacy, and Betty Hearnes. I hope that I was big enough to take that step. Life is uncertain in its length. I can live knowing I had made that move no matter what else. It helps me mentally.
3. Get to the heart of the matter. He says it may take counseling but that is not going to happen in our case. I don't know that I will ever get to the heart of the matter with any of these involved.
4. Time may heal all wounds. Keep trying. Don't give up the first time. Give everyone space and time to find and heal their own wounds. Find your space and live in it.
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